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21 Things I Learned at 26.

This week I turn 27, which I’ve got to be honest is bloody weird. WHEN did that happen please?!

And with my birthday looming, I thought I’d put together a list of a few things I learned over the last 12 months:

  1. If something’s not making you happy, it’s not worth it. Life is too short!
  2. The people who’re always there for you are the ones that matter. 
  3. Coffee is *very* necessary. 
  4. Nights in can be just as fun as nights out. 
  5. Investing in a proper skincare routine isn’t over-rated and is 100% worth it. 
  6. Your friends all start to get engaged and everyone will ask when it’s your turn. Cue lots of eye rolling!
  7. But you’ll have the *best* time helping them plan and enjoying their Big Day. 
  8. It’s not a bad thing to cut toxic people out of your life.
  9. Nothing beats freshly washed bed sheets and clean pyjamas on a Sunday night. 
  10. It’s good to budget and save like an “adult”…
  11. But the ASOS addiction is real. Sorry not sorry. 
  12. Eating right and moving more does wonders for your mental health. 
  13. Carbs however, will ALWAYS be the answer. 
  14. Sometimes you just need a bar of chocolate and a good cry. 
  15. You *can* and *should* say “yes” more and push yourself out of your comfort zone. 
  16. There’s nothing better than putting the world to rights over a bottle or 3 of prosecco with your BFFs. 
  17. You’ll have friends who you can only see once in a while, but it’s like you e never been apart. 
  18. Early nights are underrated. 
  19. As are home cooked meals, perfect cups of tea, and lazy sofa days. 
  20. Some days you feel like a sassy girl boss and other days you want to do nothing. It’s all about balance. 
  21. Life doesn’t always go the way you thought it would, but that’s okay. 
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19 Reasons Why Your Girls Are Your Soulmates.

Forget boys. Carrie Bradshaw really did get it right when she said your girls are your soulmates. Here’s why:

  1. They’ve been there. Through everything.
  2. You have so many crazy stories and inside jokes that make no sense (and can’t be explained) to anyone else.
  3. You have, on at least one occasion, pretended to be their girlfriend so a creep at the bar will leave them alone.
  4. They know what to say and when to say it. Even if you don’t want to hear it, and especially when you don’t want to hear it.
  5. Getting drunk together and crying because you love each other so much is totally normal (and acceptable) after 74911294 cocktails.
  6. You can have intense heart-to-hearts at 1am or 1pm and they always give you the best advice.
  7. It doesn’t matter how often you catch up, it’s like you’ve never been apart.
  8. They get the first text on Valentine’s Day and Christmas morning. Without fail.
  9. They’ve held your hair back after one too many glasses of vino at least once…
  10. …And you’ve gladly returned the favour.
  11. They’ve been there through all the “big” milestones in life.
  12. Your group WhatsApp consists of a) Timehop posts saying “OMG can you believe this was X years ago, b) memes that could have been written for your group, or c) screenshots from Facebook saying “can you believe so-and-so just got engaged / married / had a baby…”
  13. You’re always the first to like their new selfie on Instagram. Gotta give a gal some love!
  14. You have a “side” that you need to stand on when taking pictures and have totally perfected your snaps together.
  15. A quick catch-up over coffee can last all day and you never run out of things to talk about.
  16. Those stories you’ve re-lived a million times never get old and are always funny. 
  17. You can just give them a look and they know exactly what you’re thinking. 
  18. You’ve laughed till you’ve cried and cried till you’ve laughed. 
  19. Sistas before mistas. Duh.
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Let’s Talk: Feeling Overwhelmed.

2017 has been a pretty crazy year for me so far. And it’s only set to get busier.

While I’m really excited for all of the things going on this year, I’ve recently found myself feeling pretty overwhelmed my how full my diary is.

Don’t get me wrong, everything coming up is really exciting and I’m really looking forward to everything. But that hasn’t stopped me from feeling mentally exhausted just looking at my diary.

It’s hard to explain how and why I’m feeling the way I am.

But it’s a sense of “OMG I need an evening or a weekend to sit and do nothing”, yet when I do have a few hours to do just that, I’m anxious not to waste that time and feel like I need to do something.

And with work being busier than ever since taking on more responsibility, I feel like i’m constantly “on”. Like I can’t switch off. And part of me isn’t sure I want to switch off, which I know isn’t the healthiest thing either.

I know that this is a real “first world problem” but I can’t be the only person feeling like this.

It can’t be just me that’s craving a full diary and an empty one at the same that.

That wants to excel at work but also stay at home under the covers for a few days.

That can’t switch off, but feels overwhelmed by pretty much everything.

Maybe it’s my impending 27th birthday that’s sending me a bit crazy. That turning 27 means I’m officially in my late twenties and should be an actual adult now.

I mean, sure I own my own house with my boyfriend of eight-and-a-bit years, have a good job, new car… but I’m not sure I feel that much of an adult sometimes. It feels like I should have achieved more by 27, though what I’m not quite sure.

So to combat this feeling of “I want to do everything and nothing all at once”, I’m going to start making an effort to switch off.

My phone is going away, I’m popping on a face-mask and curling up with a brew and boyfriend-cat cuddles to see if I can finally make this overactive brain of mine chill the eff out – even for a little while.

I guess the point of this post was to a) brain dump and try and feel better / make sense of my own crazy thoughts right now and b) tell you that if you’re feeling the same you’re not alone.

 

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April Goals.

The clocks have changed, the sun is finally shining, and April makes what is set to be the busiest month of 2017.

I’m turning 27, my cousin is getting married, and I don’t have a free day at ALL in the whole of April. It’s a crazy busy but super-exciting time, and while my feet aren’t really touching the ground this month there are some thing’s I’m hoping to tick off my to-do list…

01. As I mentioned, my cousin is getting married at the end of April and I’m one of her bridesmaids. I couldn’t BE more excited for her big day, and this month we have loads of exciting things happening in the run-up. There’s a bridal party spa day,  her second hen night, and plenty of beauty treatments ahead of the wedding. I can’t wait to see her walk down the aisle…tissues are very much needed!

Another of my close friends is also going from Miss to Mrs this month and I can’t wait to catch up with her and some of our friends. It’s been far too long so I’m looking forward to dancing, drinking and generally being merry with them!

02. I’m turning 27 this month and to be honest I’m not sure how I feel about it. On one hand, I feel like I’m in a good place – I own my own home, have a new car, amazing boyfriend, great job etc – but can’t help feeling a bit…freaked out I guess, about hitting my late twenties. Should I not be feeling like an adult soon!?

03. In the last few weeks, I’ve really upped my skincare regime and am starting to see the difference. And with getting older too – sob – this is something I want to keep on top of this month. Especially with weddings and all the photos being taken!

I’ve switched up my cleanser, found a new holy grail toner, and am adding twice-weekly face masks – much to the horror of my boyfriend and cat – into my routine. I’ll be sharing what I’ve been doing soon if you’re interested!

04. I’ve felt pretty overwhelmed recently yet unable to switch off at all. When I’m busy, I want to do nothing. When I do nothing, I want to be busy. It’s a losing battle and one thing I want to do this month – where I can – is try and overcome this feeling of having too much to do. It’s great to be so busy, but I need to know when to switch off.

What about you? What are you up to this month?

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7 Things I Wish I’d Known in My Teens. 

1. Don’t be like the rest of them, darling. Trying to fit in and be the same as everyone else isn’t going to make you happy. You’re you and that’s more than enough. Don’t be afraid to be different. Life’s much more exciting when you’re you. 

2. Drink more water and look after your skin. Step away from the fizzy pop and drink water – lots of it – every day. Not only is is healthier, your skin will thank you when you hit your mid and late 20’s. 

3. Dress for the figure you have, not just what’s in “fashion”. You’ll look back at pictures when you’re in your 20’s and cringe. Don’t wear things just because they’re fashionable. Wear things that flatter your figure. You’ll look – and feel – much better when you do. 

4. Follow your dreams, despite what everyone says. You love writing, so follow that dream. Go to uni, write all the time, and persue the career you want. People will tell you that it’s a “Micky Mouse” degree or you’ll never make any money. Don’t listen. It’s not and you will. 

5. Save money. As tempting as it is, don’t blow all your money in New Look on a Saturday. Save little and often. It’ll help you buy your first house. Which is way better than some cheap heels you can’t walk in. 

6. Be nicer to yourself. You are and always will be your harshest critic but go easier on yourself. You’re enough. You’re MORE than enough. Stop looking in the mirror and hating everything. It’s not healthy. 

7. Enjoy every adventure. As soon as you start saying “Yes”, life gets interesting. Step out of your comfort zone, go to those places, meet new people & find yourself. Life’s an adventure, get out there and enjoy it. 

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38 Things All Twenty-Something Women Are Guilty Of.

  1. Saying “Shall we grab a coffee?” when you don’t drink it. Tea 4 eva!
  2. Forcing ourselves to drink fancy coffees (skinny though, obvs!) just for the Instagram photo.
  3. Buying copper and rose gold everything. Yes, I DO need that copper cutlery set…
  4. Checking ASOS’s New In pages daily.
  5. Making approximately 41942857 ASOS orders a week and being on first-name terms with your delivery driver.
  6. Eating Nakd bars ’cause they totally taste like chocolate but are healthy
  7. Calling anyone younger than  you a “baby”. 19 years old? Practically still in nappies.
  8. Getting into the latest fitness fads. Bikram-spin-with-yoga-and zumba? Sure!
  9. Buying candles. All the candles.
  10. Girl crushing on Lauren Conrad and forever wishing you could cry that single mascara tear.
  11. Looking at holidays to super-exotic places but never booking them ’cause LOL that mortgage won’t pay itself.
  12. Buying and wearing ankle boots. They go with everything AND they have a “sensible” heel. I’ll take one in every colour.
  13. Feeling nostalgic about the ’90s. And then feeling old when you remember just how long ago they were!
  14. Saying “Let’s go for cocktails!”, when really you’d rather say at home with a cuppa and your cat.
  15. Facebook stalking people you went to senior school with and realising that most of them now have kids.
  16. Calling yourself a “career woman” but still not having a clue what you want to be when you grow up.
  17. Lusting over everything in Oliver Bonas. Serious home wear goals.
  18. Being just a little too mean and critical of yourself. Whether it’s ’cause you skipped the gym, or are having a bad hair day. You’re a bit meaner to yourself than you should be.
  19. Finding yourself buying “sensible” clothes, actually liking them, and wondering who you are anymoe!
  20. Deciding you want a drastic new hair cut, and then crying all the way home ’cause you hate it.
  21. Knowing EXACTLY what Britney was on about when she sang “I’m not a girl, not yet a woman”. Preach it, Spears!
  22. Having no idea what “bae” and “en fleek” mean and suddenly feeling like a granny.
  23. Suddenly finding your signature style (in fashion and makeup) after years of dressing how you thought you should.
  24. Picking on your flaws instead of embracing the things you do like.
  25. Crying at Moulin Rouge even though you’ve seen it 175197 times.
  26. Sweating the small stuff. Even though you know you shouldn’t.
  27. Getting far more excited than is acceptable when your favourite blast-from-the-past band reunites. Hello, Busted. Oh how I missed you and your songs about fancying teachers and air hostesses.
  28. Ordering a gin and slimline tonic and feeling classy AF.
  29. Taking a selfie on a good make-up day, and then asking yourself if you’re too old to be taking selfies.
  30. Spending your last £20 on a Charlotte Tilbury lipstick ‘coz who needs to do the food shop anyway?!
  31. Being super-healthy in the week but as soon as it’s Friday, yaaaas chocolate, oh how I’ve missed you.
  32. Still calling your mom when you need help with anything remotely adult.
  33. Not seeing your girlfriends as much as you’d like, but drinking all the prosecco and chatting for hours when you do.
  34. Shouting out “Not another one!” when someone ELSE on your Facebook page gets engaged. When did we get to that age?!
  35. But being secretly happy about it ‘coz it’s an excuse to buy a new dress!
  36. Checking Instagram on the sly at work and waiting for someone to tell you off.
  37. Feeling like you’re more secure in your own skin than ever before, but not really knowing what’s next…
  38. …And being bloody excited and terrified by the thought!
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Five Happy Things #1

Why is it that, when you’re most busy, you get struck down with a serious case of Woman-Flu (a million times worse than Man-Flu, FYI)?!

Work is crazy – great, but crazy – and I haven’t got a free weekend ’till sometime in March. Yet here I am, nursing a chest infection and pneumonia. Hooray. 

Instead of feeling sorry for myself though, I wanted to take some time to think about some of the happy things from this week…

  1. A full diary. Yes I’m crazy busy and no, me and my boyfriend won’t spend a weekend together until mid-March but I’m loving having so many plans. There are weddings and hen ‘dos galore coming up this year, and I’m so excited to share those special days with all of my favourite people.
  2. Valentine’s Day. While I don’t think you need a specific day to tell the people you love how much they mean to you, seeing all the lovely posts about Valentine’s Day really made me smile. James and I aren’t a particularly soppy or romantic couple (that’s what being together eight years does!) and he DID forget about V-Day, but it was still nice to share the Valentines and Galentines love!
  3. Lighter evenings.  The first time you leave work and it’s still light is a sure-fire sign that spring is on it’s way. It’s so nice to drive along the country lanes on my way home from work with the sun still out. C’mon spring, I can see you!
  4. Box-Set binges. Our evenings this week have mostly consisted of curling up on the sofa and binge-watching the first series of Pokemon on Netflix. No, seriously. It’s been so lovely to watch something so simple and we’ve had so many laughs about the days of Pokemon Cards and GameBoy games.
  5. Busted concert! And finally, tomorrow night, cold or no cold, I’ll be transported to the Year 3000 with two of my best buds at a Busted gig.  I’m not even sorry. My inner 13-year-old can’t wait to fangirl over James Bourne. He follows me on Twitter, by the way. I know, so rock’n’roll.